Mothers and Daughters

When a woman gives birth to a baby girl, she make endless plans and list of activities they will do together. Mothers desire to watch their daughters at every point of their lives and do
not to miss anything. They not only want to be their girls’ best friend but also their confidant. For the childhood years, a mother and her daughter are inseparable; some mothers even dress their girls with attires matching theirs.

Years pass by, the girls get to teenage-hood, and their best friend (mother) suddenly becomes their enemy; it becomes almost impossible for them to get along. The girls start to see their mothers as being against them and even accuse them of invading their privacy.

Mothers are faced with a dilemma since they have to witness their sweet little princess turn to a rebellious monster. They often forget that it is only a phase in their daughters’ life, which is almost similar to what they underwent. Most mothers translate their worries into harsh measures in the name of discipline.

The mutual understanding completely disappears and mothers constantly disagree with their daughters and the house becomes a battlefield. A valley gradually develops between a mother and her daughter, the girls become completely discreet and they will not even wear outfits bought for them by their mothers.

Psychologist tend to use the Electra-complex theory to explain the rivalry between a mother and her daughter but I simply brand it as a phase in life where girls want some space due to the inevitable physical and psychological development they experience. This is a crucial part in a girl’s life and mothers should therefore be supportive. The teenage phase shapes the future of a young girl. A supportive mother cultivates a responsible young woman whereas a judgmental mother nurtures a rebellious girl.

Our dear mothers should try to understand their teenage daughters and accord them the necessary support bearing in mind that it is just a phase in their lives, which plays a major role in shaping their future.

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